FVS 13: ATTRACTION, FOUNDERS, LIVE YOUR DREAMS & DEEP WORK

NOVEMBER 20, 2018 · 4 MIN READ · newsletterpersonal-developmentbooks

FVS 13: ATTRACTION, FOUNDERS, LIVE YOUR DREAMS & DEEP WORK# FVS 13: ATTRACTION, FOUNDERS, LIVE YOUR DREAMS & DEEP WORK

“To realize one’s destiny is a person’s only obligation.”

  • The Alchemist

FVS 13: ATTRACTION, FOUNDERS, LIVE YOUR DREAMS & DEEP WORK

“To realize one’s destiny is a person’s only obligation.”

  • The Alchemist

Hi, this is another edition of “For Value Sake”. A weekly post, it contains a few articles, a book recommendation and a TED talk.  These are the most impressionable resources I consumed during the week, and share them so you can reap some value as I did.  The only goal is to add value. Cheers :)

WE WARP ATTRACTION AND EXAGGERATE FEELINGS

“While love involves a deep and meaningful connection, a crush is a potent mix of idealization and infatuation. It doesn’t require knowing another person well at all.”

We meet people and project our ideals on them and love them for who we think there are.

But when we get to really know them we reject them cos they are not who we thought they were. We were in love with our ideal, not them.  How about we kill the emotions and suspend the attraction until we get to know them, impossible! Biology is a bitch, Well, how about we understand that whatever we are thinking they are, they are not and build in this error margin into our oversized unrealistic expectations.

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WHY YOU SHOULD IGNORE EVERY FOUNDERS STORY ABOUT HOW THEY STARTED THEIR COMPANY

“You think “oh I need a great idea” when really the idea is nothing and your psychology & persistence is everything.”

Founders always have this story they tell about how they started.  But the truth is that there is a mountain load of context we miss when we consider only this.  We discount the fact that their experiences since they were born had prepared them for their current role, and not just one event that was probably the tipping point.

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HOW TO KNOW IF YOU WILL LIVE YOUR DREAMS

“You must live in alignment with yourself, first and foremost. Otherwise, you have no power, conviction, or clarity to offer your relationships.”

It’s a free world, everyone is free to live their life how they want it.  But one criterion that successful people have all seemed to have in common is that big dream or idea that they pursue most of their life.  Maybe not one, but the idea that something other than just living drives them.  They live a life constantly striving towards some higher achievement.

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[TED TALK OF THE WEEK:

IS THE WORLD GETTING BETTER OR WORSE? A LOOK AT THE NUMBERS](https://www.ted.com/talks/steven_pinker_is_the_world_getting_better_or_worse_a_look_at_the_numbers?language=en#t-1100025)

“Knowledge is better than ignorance and superstition”

If we follow what we see in the news, we would think that things are becoming worse. But taking a look at the data comparing 30 years ago and now.  We live longer, healthier, in more abundance, with more freedom, we are happier, we suffer less and know more.

Indeed as humans, our world is not ending but becoming better.

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[PODCAST OF THE WEEK:

DR. NNEKA JONES TAPIA, THE FIRST PSYCHOLOGIST TO RUN A JAIL](https://podtail.com/podcast/the-ezra-klein-show/dr-nneka-jones-tapia-the-first-psychologist-t/)

Dr. Nneka, an African America psychologist talks about how her experiences growing up, got her to a place where she is now heading one of the biggest jails in the US.

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[BOOK OF THE WEEK: 

DEEP WORK BY CAL NEWPORT](http://calnewport.com/books/deep-work/)

“This book has two goals, pursued in two parts.  The first, tackled in Part 1, is to convince you that the deep work hypothesis is true.

The second, tackled in Part 2, is to teach you how to take advantage of this reality by training your brain and transforming your work habits to place deep work at the core of your professional life.

One of my best reads on productivity for the year. The first few chapters changed the course of my year.

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That’s it for the week! Thanks for reading!

If you want the book, holla and I’ll send you an e-copy.

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